My sisters boyfriend has beat her up, busting her lip and giving her a black-eye.what should i do?

she lives with her boyfriend and has a child with him.my instint is to go visit him right now and beat him to a pulp. but my sensible instint tells me that i could face a police cell or prison after. so im cautious.


what i dont understand is that she STILL dosent wanna leave him.but he s a damm woman beater !!! im shaking with anger !!!My sisters boyfriend has beat her up, busting her lip and giving her a black-eye.what should i do?
first talk to her about domestic violence centers and tell her being ar -ound him is a bad environment for the child. she has low self esteem and call the police he should be in jail. get your sister to have a better life as soon as possible. he deserves no woman to love him.My sisters boyfriend has beat her up, busting her lip and giving her a black-eye.what should i do?
Talk with your sister. Encourage her to realize that this situation will only get worse - he has no incentive to start beating her if she doesn't impose any punishments for doing so (like leaving him, having him arrested, etc). Point out to her that if he is willing to beat her, he is also likley to beat her child, and she can be held criminally responsible for allowing him to do so. Give her options - offer to let her stay with you, give her the number of a women's shelter or helpline or support group.





If she won't report him, then you should. Report the incident to the police, with all the details you can. Call Child Protective Services as well and report your concern for the child's physical and emotional well-being, even if the child hasn't been abused yet. Get everything on record, as soon as possible and for every incident. Get the law on your side - once they start applying pressure to this jerk, he will have incentive to stop, or better yet to leave the relationship.
The reason why she won't leave him is because she still loves him even though he does those things to her. She can't imagine her life without him and she's afraid of leaving him. You should talk to her; try to get her to see the possibility of leaving him.


And once you have persuaded her to leave him you really need to get the police involved and file a restraining order. She may really need her family to help her get back on her feet and become self reliant without the help of her boyfriend.


By getting away from him and becoming self reliant again she will be able to live life without the pain of abuse.





I wish you luck and I hope that everything will work out for you and your sister.
I can well believe you are angry and wanting to knock the living 'cr*p' out of the scum who has done this to your sister. I would go round and let him know that you know what he has done. My friend used to get beat up by her then boyfriend, she too refused to leave him, which meant he kept doing it again and again. It is so hard to know the right thing to do. I really hope it is the one and only time he does this (which does not mean I agree with it), but if no one goes round there and at least lets him know that someone else knows what he has done, he may think he has just got away with it.





Good luck not beating him to a pulp - tos*er that he is





:)
your sister is as stupid as the man that is domestically abusing her,no offense,





but she shouldnt allow him to hurt her especially when she has a child,what kind of influence is that?





she should leave,i know its difficult as she has a child wih him and loves him,but that is a sacrifice she should take no matter how it hurts,


i know it is easier said then done,but im being straight,this happened to too many innocent victims,she should leave for her sake and her childs,that way its better,you should obviously report it to the police,


if he really cared he wouldnt have hurt the mother of his child, but if your other instinct takes over you,go on, knock him out.lol








Remember once a beater always a beater.
Yes i would file a police charge, theyll investigate, trust me way better. Even if they were inocent they still fish for information a while. I can understand how you feel if some guy was hurting my sister. i would be pissed off, probably deck him in the face with a peice of wood or something lol. but dont do that like you said its just as bad.


i would definatly create a case on him.


good luck on taking down the asshole.





OH i almost 4got, try talking to your sister again, and really get it out of her why she still stays eith him.


good luck =)
She is stuck in a heck of a situation. Stay and the bills get paid but she gets beat up ';OR'; call the police and he goes to prison, she loses her home and car with no food or clothes for the baby. She ends up on welfare with no hope for the future. She will be living around druggies for the rest of her life.
The best thing you can do is just be there for her when she finally gets out of denial and needs help. Do not put yourself into trouble and getting in jail. She will need you later, so keep out of trouble.





She has to make up her own mind to leave. Unfortunately, She or the child could be injured before she finally wakes up.
It's the child you should worry about not her. If she wants to get beat then let her but get your niece/nephew out of that situation. A guy who beats a girl will beat a kid! Trust me I have heard it time and time again.Tell your sister you understand she won't leave him but if you find out the child saw it happen or has been hurt you will call Child Services.
oh my god that is terrible but you need to talk with ur sister ur sister could end up hating you for getting involved but ive got a sister and i would kill for her u should do what you feel is right but i hate to say this but if u do tell the police on him it shouldn't happen but he might not get charged for it and end up hurting her more but i agree her is a ba***d and doesn't deserve her talk to your sister tell her how u feel and that u care about her
report him to the cops. tell the cops your sister is too scared the hell to report. then you give him a visit beat the f'uck outta him, but careful how badly you beat him up cause later you'll have to tell the cops he started getting rough on you when you just came to see how thing are and you were just fending yourself.
First you need to remove your sister from the situation. Take her to see a councelir or a someone she trusts so she can talk about the abuse.


Then talk to the police, they might take photos and will ask for a statement. She shouldnt be scared, it will help her.


You should support her no matter what.


Let the Police deal with it.


Care for your SISTER!!!
Kick the crap out of the cowardly bastard, rub your head against the wall to bruise it and scrape it. Tell the police that you only went round to see what had happened and he assaulted you and you were in fear for your life. It worked for me 30 years ago !
tricky situation. Why not baseball bat his car? otherwise, these things can escalate so easily-you beat him up, he gets a knife or beats your sister up again. Baseball bat his house or car. Much easier.
sledge hammer+legs=instant retribution. do it and dont feel bad, he is scum and deserves it.
Get a balaclava and gloves and a lump of wood
I was told that you have to take pictures of it and go to the police.
CALL THE POLICE ON HIM NOW
CALL THE POLICE ON HIM NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
call the Police or somthink
call the police